Awkward Alert !!
I have a question for everyone. How exactly do you tell someone you don't like them without sounding like an asshole? I mean, really.
The situation: There is a guy that I briefly dated last summer. Things between us were good but eventually he drifted away and we simply just stopped seeing each other. It was a nice little fling- but I never expected more than that. Since we knew each other through friends, we would normally run into each other and were very civil. In the past couple of weeks we have become better friends and have started to hang out together a lot. Movies, shopping, lunches- everything really. It has been great, I feel like I gained another friend and all the stuff from before was simply left in the past.
Yup, all good- until a couple weeks ago when after a movie- he dropped me off and totally went in for the kiss. I was in shock- simply got off the car and didn't say anything. The next day at my bday bbq- he simply told me he was interested in me as more than a friend- I told him that I thought we could be friends, Just Friends- and not much else. In the spirit of trying not to make things weird- I continued to hang out with him and text, trying to make it seem like it never happened.
Well I did the royal fuck up the year over the weekend when I thought we were all good as before and that I could hang out with him and expect nothing to happen. Wrong. As we went to chill together, I very soon came to realize that he wanted to do more with me then just have some beer's and watch a movie. So what did I do??? What I do best- pretend I was sleepy and doze off.
I mean, what was I suppose to do!!! After repeated attempts to wake me, he finally gave up and fell asleep as well. I thought that I was in the clear about an hour later when I went to use the bathroom and by the time I got back he was up and ready to talk. He went on to tell me how sorry he was about last summer and that he now really realized what a great girl I was. he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he really liked me. Also, went on to psycho analyze me in saying that he knew I liked him as well and was probably scared- but that we had such great chemistry emotional and physical that we simply needed to be together.
wowza, what the fuck did i get myself into. I simply wanted some beers and a calm movie night.
I felt horrible. I had led this guy on to believe we were more than friends and that I was truly into him through my actions. I felt like such an asshole and told him that I simply wasn't into him. And I really just wanted to be friends. He said he didn't understand and that would simply keep pursuing me until I realized that he really did care.
Now, I don't know what to do. Do I keep being friends with him or do I give him the space needed for him to not be interested in me. He truly is a great person but I am just not attracted to him in that way. How do I keep my friendship without becoming that asshole that broke his heart??